Christmas Eve arrived and we started making preparations for our dinner and visit to the cemetery. While I was on the treadmill my friend sent me a text telling me that the funeral for our friend that had died was at 11:00 that morning! It was already 9:30. I quickly got ready because this was a lady that 19 years ago changed how we grieved the loss of our sweet Trevin. At the time that Trevin died we were living in her neighborhood. She is from Finland and it is a Finnish tradition to have a big dinner on Christmas Eve and then go to the cemetery and light candles for those you love. Trevin died on December 9th, so they invited us over for Christmas Eve that year. We continued to join them at the cemetery for several years. Then we started doing our own and having some of our own family come with us and share in that sacred tradition. It was so appropriate that her funeral, the celebration of her life, would be on Christmas Eve. It was such a beautiful funeral. What a great lady she was. She will be truly missed. I am forever grateful for her and that shared tradition.
I was especially grateful this year that I decided 19 years ago that Christmas Eve was my day to be sad and miss Trevin, and now Tatum. So tender this year because we would now be going to a different cemetery, and now there are two of our children there. It all just felt so sad and wrong. I just wished that it was different. Several of my friends were so kind to remember, among all of the hustle and bustle, that this was going to be a hard day for us. Treats, cards, ornaments, etc. Unbelievable how good people are. The kind things that were said, it truly made the day bearable.
Hilary got a Fufa shirt from Tates.
Overall it was a great Christmas. I love being home for Christmas. We are so blessed in so many ways. We have been given gifts that are immeasurable, family and the gospel and the knowledge that comes with that are at the top of the list. We are so grateful for the goodness that has been shown to us during this hard first Christmas. Tender mercies that were so needed and appreciated.